RAM Touch

Imagine it’s your wedding day and you’re at your reception. You see someone come into the room with a ginormous wedding gift. What do you do with it? Would you open it with everyone watching? Wait until you get home? Would you notice it, look away, but think about it the rest of your time at the party keeping you from being present in the moment? Who would you open it with? Would you share that gift with numerous people? Now imagine that gift is physical intimacy. Does that change any of your answers? Sexual intimacy is the ultimate connection between two souls. It’s not just a physical connection it’s also spiritual, mental and especially emotional. Sex expresses more than “I’m attracted to you.” Every time you have sex with someone you are saying “I understand that this could lead to a life being formed and I know you well enough, trust who you are, can rely on you if that were to happen, am committed to you regardless if it happens and therefore I feel safe going forward with you in this moment.” For this reason, and so many others, physical touch needs to be the last step taken on the Relationship Attachment Model.

Let’s travel back to the time of the first husband and wife on the earth, Adam and Eve. We learn that “Adam knew his wife, and she bare unto him sons and daughters.” (Moses 5:2) Many times the word “knew” is interpreted to mean “sex” but what if it means that Adam knew his wife emotionally, spiritually and lastly physically. We don’t know all that Adam and Eve were doing on earth before the Fall occurred but one can speculate that they had opportunities to get to know each other. They spent time together and as a result learned how to trust, rely and commit to one another. The last thing introduced to them was physical touch. This divine pattern has been modeled since the beginning of mankind.

If you are going to live the Relationship Attachment Model you need to be, well, attached to it. Just as with any goal, if you’re connecting to why you are doing what you’re doing then you’re more likely to follow through with it and receive the benefits. In this lust saturated world, we live in children and adults need to be connected to their individual worth and have a strong resolve to protect it at all costs. The quality of your spiritual, emotional and physical life depends on it. You are worth it. You are worthy of love. You are loved.